Remember the old days when we used our charm to get our way? I think today charm is way way underused. Charm can be used by male, female, nongendered. Old, young.
“Charm is the ability to make someone think that both of you are quite wonderful.
Charm is not about being manipulative. It is merely a way of interacting with other people are if they are fellow human beings. Have you ever noticed that even in a foreign country a mere smile can accomplish much.
There are some places it is a little more difficult to practice charm. TSA, DMV or during a traffic stop. But you can try! After all, charm is just being nice. Even those folks appreciate nice.
Let me suggest a variation of charm. I call it “pulling the old lady card”. I joked about it on a recent trip. I used it at the airport with grumpy TSA agents, at a resort with servers and even the golf cart drivers who took you to your room up a steep hill. No, it is not about acting helpless. It is a variation of charm that allows the other person to be of service. You know there is such a natural inclination if we just allow it. Being huffy and grumpy doesn’t get you far but a smile and an an open expression inviting help goes a long way. (But don’t forget the tip, that helps a lot, but NOT with TSA, government officials or law enforcement. Then it is called a bribe).
What if you are not old enough to pull the old lady card? Well, then you are just going to have to use a lot of charm. You know you can do it.
I am in the business of making people single. I see the positive changes happening to people when they reclaim their lives. Often they did not know how unhappy they were until they made the change to being single. But I do have to caution folks that it is not the rainbows and unicorns some people make it out to be.There seems to be an idolizing of the single life. I read about it all the time. Let me tell you a little about said single life. (more…)
Last week I wrote about commitment and that I had committed to an every Sunday post. Well I broke the streek. You know, Super Bowl, friends gathering, etc. etc. So here it is Tuesday and I am committed to a blog this week. Fresh out of ideas, I asked my tribe. Great suggestion: “talk about having a tribe”. Great idea but what does tribe mean, asked one member. (more…)
Grandma meets the millennial. He probably winced when I walked in the door of the Mac store. Certainly not his demographic. “She’s going to waste my time and won’t understand anything” I’m sure he was thinking. He seems a little more interested as I pulled out my MacBook Air and seemed to actually know what it was.
The new year has come and gone. Last week I found myself with a head cold, my car was out of gas, there was no coffee in the house. If I didn’t have auto pay I probably would be without lights or heat. Adulting can be challenging. And then this . . .
This is my friend, Bonnie and her Seahawks ring. Bonnie is more than 70. Bonnie is on Facebook. Be like Bonnie. (more…)